Can We Stop With The #assholeparent Thing?

Let's stop with the #assholeparent thing

For those of you unaware, there has been a trend on social media over the last few years using the hashtag ‘assholeparent.’ For the most part, this involves parents taking pictures of their children while they are upset/crying/having a tantrum, posting it on social media with a caption, usually in a mocking way, explaining why their child is upset which therefore makes them an asshole parent. And I just don’t get it. Why??

As a parent of 2 young children myself, I totally understand that parenting can be really hard and kids can be really challenging in ways that are difficult for adults to understand. I also know that we do need to let off some steam and talk these things out regularly, but that should be done with your closest friend over  coffee wine or with your spouse at the end of the day after the kids finally go to sleep, not with thousands of people on the internet.

Let's stop the #assholeparent thing

If you don’t see the problem, then just put yourself in their place. How would you feel if the person who you love more than anyone in this world took your picture while you were visibly upset and plastered it on the internet for thousands of people to laugh at? Not good, right? Our children deserve more respect than that.

Children, after all, are not just adults-in-the-making. They are people whose current needs and rights and experiences must be taken seriously. -Alfie Kohn

It may seem harmless in the moment to laugh or roll our eyes in commiseration with other parents who have certainly been there, but there is definitely a risk. We risk losing empathy and compassion for our most vulnerable members of society and perpetuating the conception that children are less deserving of respect than adults. Yes, children are small, dependent on adults and still learning how to navigate this world but those are the exact reasons why we should be more careful with how we speak to and about them. After all, one day they will be the adults.


Peaceful Parenting is simply treating our tiny humans with the same humanity that we like to be treated with ourselves.

So, the next time your child is completely losing her mind because you wouldn’t let her eat dog food, instead of telling her to stop being silly or taking a picture to get some sympathy from other parents, just stop. Stop, breathe and put yourself in her place. Get down on her level and empathize, hug her, cuddle her and treat her like the already perfect human that she is. Let her know that you will always be there for her and will always love her no matter what. Show her that life can be tough sometimes but she always has a trusted parent from which to seek comfort.

Lets stop the #assholeparent thing

My message is very simple. Love your kids. Just love them. Love, appreciate, show that you value them, remind them of their greatness, encourage them, respect, honor, trust, and treat them with dignity. -Eric D Greene

Thank you for reading and please comment with your thoughts. I’d love to hear your view on this!

With love,


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12 Replies to “Can We Stop With The #assholeparent Thing?”

  1. Thank you for this! (Thought you should hear it before all the #assholeparent s troll your comment section with their self-justifying blather.)

    1. Thank you Alexandra! 🙂

  2. I had no idea this was a “thing.” Sorry its gross! I agree stop.

    1. Thank you Michele!

  3. The posts with the kids crying into the camera always make me sad because their little faces just look so upset! I will admit that reading a meme or tweet about someone else’s toddler freaking out over the wrong color cup being handed to them does make me feel like I’m not alone! But I agree I don’t like the hashtag or the need to photograph a visibly upset kid.

    1. For sure, Vicki. We’ve all been there, I just think it’s a slippery slope and can be done in a different way. Thanks for your comment!

  4. Sarah Burkert says: Reply

    This was refreshing. Thank you for sharing. I didnt even know about this hashtag. We need to love our kids and respect them. I think you are right that we lose respect for children sometimes.

    1. Thanks so much Sarah!

  5. Honestly I’ve never seen one of these posts, not sure how, but I’m glad I haven’t. That’s just sad that people are going to take their phone out to take a picture of their crying child. I love this post, good job.

    1. Thank you Kyler! I’m glad you’ve never seen it!

  6. I love this post. I have only seen bits and pieces of this trend, but I completely agree with respecting our children. I’ve recently pulled back on how much I share, understanding that they might not appreciate certain aspects of these lives shared in public.

    1. Thank you Sara! I’m so glad you agree, it’s such a tricky thing these days with social media and wanting to share about our lives.

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